Once a Good Girl's Gone Bad...

"She's gone forever." Hmm... is that true?

Nobody is the same after they learn something new. Once you do something a few times and you realize it's not working for you, you're supposed to change what you're doing. You can't expect a different destination if you keep taking the same route every time, right?

So sometimes, the good girls don't always go bad. They just grow up. Or "we" grow up, I should say. We realize that every man doesn't deserve our best. We realize that men will take advantage of us and mistake our kindness for weakness. So we stop. We stop being so kind. We stop doing the nice things we used to do because we have learned that it gets you nowhere. It's too hard to figure out where to draw the line, who's sincere and who isn't. To save ourselves, we assume that NOBODY is sincere. When you hear a female say "Every guy is the same," that's a cry for help. It's a struggle with bitterness and pain. It doesn't always mean she dates the same type of guys. It could mean she dates different guys THE SAME WAY and ends up with the same results. It takes time to realize this tho. And not all females will draw this conclusion.

This is when you get the "good girls gone bad." They say "forget it, since nobody likes me the way I am, I'll just stop being this way." They see the guys who like hoes and hoodrats and hoochies, so that's what they become, because it's easier & quicker to do a complete 180 than to work on yourself over time - even tho that would produce better results.

But is she really gone forever? Can you get the good girl back? I really can't answer that question. It depends on how long she's been gone, and how good her life has been since she changed. Chances are if she's getting the results she wanted, there's no turning back. We can't always blame men for this. Yes, many of them are dogs, but there comes a point in time when you take a look in the mirror and say "What am I doing to attract these guys who treat me so badly?" And you must figure it out. Just work on fixing that one thing and it could change your life.

I say this to encourage and inspire all my beautiful, bitter Black sisters out there. Don't let the heartbreak turn you into someone you're not meant to be. Let it make you better, wiser, and less susceptible to the foolishness these guys will try to pull. Use discretion. Like with caution. Protect your heart. Above all else, BE YOU! Don't turn into that girl with the soulless eyes and hardened heart. Learn to give your love away to the ones who PROVE they deserve it. Don't give it and expect that to make a man change. That ain't gonna happen. Nobody appreciates something they didn't earn.