**DISCLAIMER: HARSH LANGUAGE!!**NOT!!!!!! I am SO SICK of other single mothers complaining that mothers like me, whose child spends time with their BD, don't have it as hard as they do. Excuse me? You know NOTHING about my life. Sure, your kid's dad may not be around. But hey, that was your decision. Don't run around sleeping with men you don't know and MAYBE you wouldn't have the problem of him running out on his child! Ever think of that? My ex and I were together for a while, so I was never really concerned about him leaving once the munchkin was born. Not only that, but we talked about it numerous times and I knew he wasn't the type of man to leave his child. Can you say the same about the random man you had sex with? Or the man you TRAPPED just because you wanted a baby? Women need to think about things like that. You can't expect a man to stick around just because you're pregnant, especially if you don't even know him. He does not care about you OR that precious baby growing inside of you! Sorry! Not my fault! Not only that, but there are plenty of ways to get a break from your child when you want one. Family, friends, babysitters, day care, and a nice little website called CARE.COM where you can find someone to watch your child, background check and references included! So if you wanna go out, utilize some resources and GO. That's what I do when I need to go somewhere and pooh pooh can't come with me (such as CLASS). I ask someone to babysit. It's really not that hard. I know what it's like to not be able to do what you want. I know how it feels to be unable to enjoy yourself because you are worried about your child. I know what a sacrifice is. But yall wouldn't know that, because you don't know ME. My bd and I don't get along AT ALL. Do you know what that means? Damn near every day, for the rest of my son's natural life, I am going to have to deal with a man that stresses me out, angers me, drives me crazy, and makes me wish I never met him. But a lot of women don't know what that feels like. See, they don't know what it's like to have someone trying to take custody of the child they carried for 9 months, with a complicated pregnancy I might add, and then birthed after hours of labor and a c-section. They don't know what it's like to be referred to as the "baby mama" when you know you are so much more than that. They don't understand how it feels to have almost NO SAY in what goes on in your child's life when he's with his daddy.
Now let me tell you something. The days I don't have my son, what am I doing? APPLYING FOR JOBS. GOING TO SCHOOL FULL TIME (know what that means? 3, sometimes four classes a day 4 days in a row!). COACHING CHEERLEADING. WORKING WITH KIDS. COMMUNITY SERVICE. DOING LAUNDRY. COOKING. WASHING & BOILING BOTTLES & PACIFIERS. CLEANING UP. BASICALLY TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS. MAKING SURE MY BABY IS UP TO DATE ON WIC AND IMMUNIZATIONS. MAKING APPOINTMENTS.
And it is an INSULT to me and any other single mother, to say that we don't have it as hard just because our children spend time with their fathers. Single means that you are not married. Am I married? No. Therefore, I AM A SINGLE MOM, whether you bitches like it or not. And you got life FUCKED UP if you even dare to think that my life is easier than yours, or that I don't work as hard as you. Believe that.
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